I’m going to resist the temptation to jump on the New Years resolution bandwagon. Frankly, I don’t believe resolutions endure and I’d venture a guess you are saturated with messages, to tempt you to make the changes you want to make for this coming year. Instead of dangling a stale carrot in front of you, making it sound easy to succeed by resolution, I’m going to offer you something juicy. Forget resolutions. This year, LEARN to change your life.
I’ve spent a lot of time over the past month socializing at holiday parties and catching up with people I don’t see but once a year. It’s astonishing how many people muse about unfulfilled dreams and express hopefulness about making more money, or improving their lifestyle, yet their lives stay the same from year to year. As a coach I can’t help but see the glaring gaps in peoples lives (that feel to them like the Grand Canyon) – simply as opportunities to learn the new skills necessary to change their lives.
From losing that extra weight to building your business to the next level – I believe the keys to successful change making lies with both the recognition of what’s missing from your skill set, and getting critical outside perspective so you can see clearly how to course correct and take the action necessary to make your dreams real.
I sincerely believe that you would make changes if you knew how, and had the support to do it. It can be as simple as someone asking you a provocative question that opens your thinking in a whole new direction. Think about it – you’re the only one in your head – how can you possible see a bigger perspective alone? I was at a party last night with a neighbor. He was telling me about his dissatisfaction with his current job. I asked him what his dream job would be. That opened up an hour of animated conversation that left him inspired to consider next steps to change his reality.
I was talking with a new client the other day who was telling me she’s been trying to grow her design business without luck, it finally dawned on her that she didn’t know how! Although she’s a master at her craft, she lacks the business building skills needed to take her to the next level.
Both of these people and their classic examples have one thing in common. Neither of them would succeed at changing their lives merely by resolving to do it. Yes, the spark of inspiration may come to you in the form of a resolution, but where the rubber will meet the road is with your ability to take new action – by learning how to change.
So, if you’re faced with the desire to make real change in your life this year, be encouraged. Ask yourself three questions: What’s missing from the same old formula you’re already tried year after year? What do you need to learn (and then find someone who can teach you). And finally ask yourself, is this your year?
It’s YOUR life…imagine the possibilities!